http://www.sina.com.cn2010年01月05日 10:23 沪江英语
男女交往技巧多多。女生们可要注意，有的行为是男生相当不欣赏的。究竟有哪些雷区踩不得、哪些行为会吓跑男友呢？快来听听看男生们都是怎么说的吧！
排名第十——知道那些我都没告诉过她的事儿
No.10 - She knows things about you that you haven't told her。
排名第十：知道那些我都没告诉过她的事儿
Especially in the early stages of arelationship, men keep secrets:ex-girlfriends, yearly income and theamount of hair that is real (andfake) on their thinning domes. It willall be revealed in due time, butfor now this is personal information。
特别是在两个人刚刚开始的时候，男人都有秘密：前女友啦、年收入啦，还有自己头上究竟有几根真发(或假发)？这些秘密到时候男人都会慢慢说出来，不过没到时候时，它们都还属于私人信息。
小编：女人的好奇心似乎总是在男友身上无限泛滥。不过尽管两人关系亲密，也要记得给对方留一点空间才是！
No.9 - She introduces herself to your family & friends behind your back。
排名第九——背着我去认识我的亲人和朋友
排名第九：背着我去认识我的亲人和朋友。
You've hesitated to introduce her to yourfriends and family becausethe relationship is new or you just mightnot be sure it's somethingthat is going to the next level. Suddenly,your mom is asking questionsabout her and your friends want to knowwhen she is coming out fordrinks. She has found a way to skip your introductions and connect withthe people in your life behind your back。
两人刚开始交往、男生会犹豫要不要把女友介绍给自己的亲友。“因为我确实还不太确定我们的关系是否会有进展。” 而突然，全世界似乎都认识了我的女友。原来她背着我、先把自己介绍给了我的亲朋好友！
小编：也许你需要通过进入他的圈子来更了解他、或是确立自己的地位。但完全不征求对方同意就这么做确实有点太过分了！
No.8 - She responds to messages on your behalf。
排名第八：用我的名义去回复我收到的信息。
The obligations never end. If it’s not anout-of-town wedding thisweekend, it’s a birthday party for a friend you haven’t said a word toin months. You’ll RSVP on your own time andon your own terms -- unlessshe has already made the calls and penciledin everything on your socialcalendar. She has become your social secretary, making sure to respondto every invitation with a “plus-one。”
“不经我的同意，就帮我答复了邀请我的婚礼、或是一个朋友的生日派对。仿佛她是我的生活秘书，我的事情都由她来做主。”
小编：男生最怕被“控制”的感觉。记住，你是他的女友、可不是他妈！
No.7 - She has all your passwords without you having given them to her。
排名第七：在我没告诉过她的情况下、知道所有我的密码
There is something odd going on: You havee-mails in your deleteditems folder that you don’t remember reading,phone messages from friendsthat aren't making it onto your voicemail and text messages aredisappearing off your cell phone. The only explanation is that yourgirlfriend has figured out your passwords。
奇怪的事情发生了：我根本没读过的邮件出现在“已删除”邮箱里、朋友给我的电话留言或短信我都接不到……那这种时候只有一个解释：我的女友知道了我的密码……
小编：人人都有隐私，不管这个人是你的男友、甚至是丈夫。不要老是像监视犯人那样监视自己的爱人，你是不相信他、还是不相信自己？
No.6 - She shows up in places unexpectedly。
排名第六：出现在不该她出现的地方
There are times when you just want to hangwith friends or even justbe alone. She doesn’t care about either. Sheshows up at the bar as ifshe were the guest of honor and knocks on your door before calling tosee if you're home. She appears at work, at the gym and at thebookstore!
有的时候我们只想和朋友在一起、或是自己一个人待一会儿。而我的女友根本在乎我的感受。她会假装偶遇、出现在我去的酒吧；或是不打电话就跑来我加。甚至公司、健身房、书店！她简直无所不在！
小编：空间啊空间……
No.5 - She made a key to your house without asking
排名第五：私自配了我家的钥匙
A brutal week at work has you dreaming ofa night full of cold beersand hours of Xbox until your fingers cramp.You get home to find yourpartner
sitting on the couch, waiting to go out. Not only is your weekendshot,but you can't figure out how the hell she got into your place. Shemadeher own key. How she did it isn’t important right now becauseyoushould be much more concerned with why she did it and what you’regoingto have to say to get it back。
“一周残酷的工作终于结束，我想着可以周末回家好好喝啤酒、玩Xbox，可一回家，我的女友却坐在沙发上、等着和我出门约会！”原来她私自去配了我家钥匙，这时我已经不关心她怎么做到的，我只想她赶快把钥匙还给我！
小编：空间啊……还是空间……
No.4 - She stops taking birth control without telling you。
排名第四：她没告诉我就不用避孕措施了！
You ditched the love glove weeks ago because she is on the pill.Atleast you think she is on the pill. You haven’t see her take it,shehasn’t had to stop at the pharmacy for a refill and, now that youthinkabout it, you can’t recall the last time she had a monthly visitfrom“Aunt Flo。”
印象里，似乎我的女友在吃避孕药……也似乎没有……至少很久都没见她去药店买药了。天哪！她怀孕了！
小编：生小孩可是两个人的大事！完全秘密策划进行不仅是对你们的关系不负责、更是对孩子的不负责！
No.3 - She gets physical when arguing。
排名第三：一吵架她就动手。
Couples fight. The minor disagreement has turned into a majorshouting match. If you don't walk away, punchescould be thrown. Whileyou'd never hit a woman, your partner has cockedback and let one looseon you on more than one occasion。
两个人从小吵变成大闹，她就开始要动手了。因为我决不能对女孩子动手，就变成被动挨打……
小编：老虎伍兹的事件告诉我们，家暴不仅仅是男生对女生实施的。姑娘们，如果你真的爱这个男人还是手下留情吧！(如果不是真爱、他又真是个贱人……你就当我什么都没说过)
No.2 - She threatens to hurt/kill herself。
排名第二：她威胁会伤害或杀死自己。
She is on to the fact that you aren’thappy and might be looking fora way out. She realizes that onlydrastic measures will keep you around.She starts making crazy statements in the middle of arguments, like,“Ifyou leave, I’d probably kill myself” and other threats of bodily harm.Is she serious? You don’t really want to test her but you can’t keep uplike this。
当她意识到我已经不再爱她、要和她分手的时候，她就会像疯了一样威胁我：“如果你离开，我就自杀！” 或是做其他伤害自己的行为。我当然不能看着她这样，但我也不能因此就不和她分手……
小编：女人，只有爱自己才会有人爱。当感情逝去，至少要优雅地放手。如此歇斯底里，只会逼对方逃得更快，还会在他心里留下最坏的印象。
No.1 - She won't let you break up with her。
排名第一：死也不分手！
It's not going well. The relationship is anightmare. It's time topull the plug. Only problem: She won't let you.You've tried countlesstimes, but she doesn't get the hint. She won'tlet you break up with herand every time you think she has understoodthe hint, she is back in yourhouse, hanging with your mom and showingup at your work to go to lunch。
两人关系不好，想分手。但女友无论如何就是不同意。不管我说了多少次，她都不接招。依旧要求跟我约会、往我家里跑、跟我母亲出游、或是到我公司跟我吃午饭……
小编：对于这样死缠烂打的人也实在没话说。男生们，只能劝你们一开始就擦亮眼睛了！